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 I can't decide if it's a brochure or a band-aid November 14, 2009
squishface (Brooklyn, NY)
Just read this entire book in an hour and I was really disappointed - it was not what I expected. On every page there is a title followed by a short, bulleted list of points related to that title. On every facing page there is a little poem by Peter McWilliams related to that topic.
In other words, this is not so much a book about losing a love and healing as it is an outline of some ideas about what it's like to lose a love. Which I guess is a good thing if your goal is to read it as quickly as possible.
It's very focused on calming a reader who is in the middle of a loss, as opposed to someone trying to heal months or years later. There is plenty of decent advice for someone trapped in a dark place following the loss. (Lots of affirmations that however you're feeling is okay, it's okay to move slowly, it's okay to have crazy thoughts as long as you recognize that they're crazy.) But for longer-term stuff, I found it useless.
There's also all this weird cross-marketing sprinkled throughout the book, with specific instructions on where you can buy the authors' many other books. I'm sure they thought they were being helpful, but it comes off as weird.
I can't recommend a better book since I haven't read any others on this topic, but I'm not even going to keep this one on my bookshelf. It's going in the "free books" box on my stoop tomorrow.
 Much needed help November 13, 2009
P M (Qld, Australia)
This is a fantastic book. I originally read it some years ago after a painful relationship break up and working through the chapters was a surreal kind of therapy that helped me adjust and cope with intense pain and sorrow. It helped me move on and be a better and stronger person. I bought it again this year for a family member who had tragically lost her adult daughter to suicide, and who was only just coping, and revisited the pages. Two completely different circumstances but the words and suggestions were invaluable for both. It has been very very helpful - loss, pain,fear,whatever the circumstances the suggestions in the book for healing and growth are invaluable. However as it says in the forward, don't just read the book it has to be used and applied to your situation.
 How To Survive The Loss of A Love October 19, 2009
Diane K. Westbrook (Austin. Texas)
I truly enjoyed the little poems inside but the book made me cry and cry all that day. I'm not sure it is very helpful or if something that makes you cry is good for you so you can just let it all out and feel better afterwards. I haven't read all of it yet, but I probably will. Good luck to anyone else in this situation and God Bless.
How to survive the loss of a love September 30, 2009
Jeffrey L. Tucker (South Range, WI USA)
I'm a guy - so normally we just 'tough it out' when we lose someone we've been involved with. But as I've gotten older I found that more difficult and after a particularly painful breakup with my then-fiance', I sought help in the form of a self help book and stumbled upon "How to survive the loss of a love" by Peter McWilliams and Harold H. Bloomfield. I don't think I can do the book justice in how it helps - on one page is narrative about what you are experiencing at this particular point and on the other page is a poem that somehow reached inside me and said exactly what I was thinking and feeling. It does this from the excruciating heart-felt pain you go through from the beginning to the shock, fear, anger, remorse and then gives you hope. Day by day, I carried this book with me and over the years I have given copies (never my own copy!) to friends and family when they have experienced losses. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has suffered a loss, it will help get you through.
Jeffrey L Tucker
great help! September 21, 2009
rattle headed copper moccasin (lawrence, ks usa)
could even be titled "how to survive the loss," or "how to survive a loss." wonderfully helpful. some people may have cried while reading this book, i did not cry but i did laugh some and felt like i could breathe again. even if you hate poetry, you will probably still like this book.
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